Is Sarah Chalke destined to only play the dorky guy's love interest in sitcoms forever?
MadLove - starring Sarah Chalke and Jason Biggs
Monday, February 28, 2011
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Pimping Yourself Out
That's what it feels like, this whole dating thing. Not in the Xzibit, pimping out rides kind of way. I'm talking street walker, fishnet wearing, smeared mascara kind of way.
I've had quite a few discussions on this topic, and the opinions on it vary quite greatly. But generally there are two camps when it comes to this, and of course both are widely apart from each other. While they both sound good in theory, neither are both flawed in their own ways.
1) Sell Yourself
Basically you're going to do your best to show yourself in the best light possible. Hiding all your flaws, and exaggerating all your strengths. Selling yourself to somebody how great you are. You're trying to get somebody to like you. In this form, you're treating dating like a competition that is to be conquered.
I don't really like selling myself, it just feels gross. It feels too much like a sales pitch, like some sleazy used car salesman trying to get one by the customer. And why should I "try" to get somebody to like me? Aren't they suppose to like you for who you are regardless? And really, is this act sustainable long term?
2) Be Yourself
You don't really try too hard, no real song and dance, just let things happen as they may. Things will work out if they're suppose to, the thinking being that somebody will like you for just being you. This is more the "letting nature take its course" approach.
This seems more utopian and idealistic, but in some ways, highly unrealistic. Will anything really get done if you don't really try? It feels like you're waiting around helplessly for something to happen. People are also generally not super interesting if you really think about it, we're different, but mostly we're in a large group of average. We all eat, sleep, drink, have friends, hobbies and so on. Can anybody get excited by that?
Is there a right way or a wrong way? Is it an individual decision? Is it really a matter of effort?
Thoughts?
I've had quite a few discussions on this topic, and the opinions on it vary quite greatly. But generally there are two camps when it comes to this, and of course both are widely apart from each other. While they both sound good in theory, neither are both flawed in their own ways.
1) Sell Yourself
Basically you're going to do your best to show yourself in the best light possible. Hiding all your flaws, and exaggerating all your strengths. Selling yourself to somebody how great you are. You're trying to get somebody to like you. In this form, you're treating dating like a competition that is to be conquered.
I don't really like selling myself, it just feels gross. It feels too much like a sales pitch, like some sleazy used car salesman trying to get one by the customer. And why should I "try" to get somebody to like me? Aren't they suppose to like you for who you are regardless? And really, is this act sustainable long term?
2) Be Yourself
You don't really try too hard, no real song and dance, just let things happen as they may. Things will work out if they're suppose to, the thinking being that somebody will like you for just being you. This is more the "letting nature take its course" approach.
This seems more utopian and idealistic, but in some ways, highly unrealistic. Will anything really get done if you don't really try? It feels like you're waiting around helplessly for something to happen. People are also generally not super interesting if you really think about it, we're different, but mostly we're in a large group of average. We all eat, sleep, drink, have friends, hobbies and so on. Can anybody get excited by that?
Is there a right way or a wrong way? Is it an individual decision? Is it really a matter of effort?
Thoughts?
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Valentine's Day?
Even though last year on Valentine's Day I was single, it didn't really feel like it since emotionally I still felt somewhat in disarray. This year is a completely different story...to a certain extent I guess. So I'm really counting this one as my first one being single in a long time.
Reminders of Valentine's Day is coming up is everywhere, supermarkets, radio ads, email spam, and so on. Yet to me, it hasn't even been a thought it my mind. Some time last week at work, somebody reminded me that Februrary 14th would be coming up soon. My first thought was "ummmmmm yeah so?". It had not even really entered my consciousness that it was happening.
I find it surprising that there is a semi-holiday that specifically geared towards couples. For the rest of us, it is just another day.
Reminders of Valentine's Day is coming up is everywhere, supermarkets, radio ads, email spam, and so on. Yet to me, it hasn't even been a thought it my mind. Some time last week at work, somebody reminded me that Februrary 14th would be coming up soon. My first thought was "ummmmmm yeah so?". It had not even really entered my consciousness that it was happening.
I find it surprising that there is a semi-holiday that specifically geared towards couples. For the rest of us, it is just another day.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Things that make me annoyed...
Yeah I should be focusing on the positive, but sometimes, stuff happens, and you just can't help but get out of sorts.
1) Driving during non peak hours.
There are two worlds, the working world, and the non-working world. When all the working people are driving to work, everybody has somewhere to go. Sure there can be traffic, but everybody is trying to move as quickly as possible. Week days during the day in particular, are filled with people that have nowhere to go. And it totally shows in the way the flow of traffic occurs. It's like a mass of people on auto-pilot la-dee-da mode. Drive 10 under? Why not. O...M...G....
2) Losing stuff.
To be honest, I'm really good at this one, so I get annoyed at myself a lot. Especially when it's something you need in a rush, it's so stressful.
3) Clients who insist on making things look awful.
And why do they do this you ask? Oh, because they just love the colour fusia and other lame reasons like that. I don't tell them how to do their job, they really shouldn't tell me how to do mine.
4) Overplayed, overly festive or schmaltzy music.
This includes the following: Just Like a Waving Flag, I Believe, My Heart Will Go On, anything by Aqua (other than Barbie Girl which has some cool subversive lyrical content),
5) Canceling plans at the last minute.
I don't know, this didn't bother me so much when I was younger. But now I find I have so much stuff to do (not that I'm popular, more that I have more things to take care of), that I'm usually trying to move stuff around to get things done. So when my schedule gets out of sorts all of a sudden, I'm kinda like "I could've been doing...", drives me nuts.
6) Slow computers.
That spinning rainbow wheel of death (or the hour glass for you PC people out there), can be really annoying. Granted a few seconds is okay, but when it ends up with hearing the hard drive churning all of a sudden, and the computer lockdown to the point where you're afraid of the wind blowing the wrong way will cause your program to completely crap out, just to open a simple file, it's bad stuff. Better than the old blue screen of death I suppose...
7) Illustrator crashing when you haven't saved a file in a long time.
Save your files. But that leads me to wonder why Adobe hasn't developed some sort of auto-recovery back up. Microsoft Office has it.
8) That unhealthy food tastes soooooooo good.
If only french fries, potato chips, chocolate, butter, etc... were filled with vitamins and nutrients.
1) Driving during non peak hours.
There are two worlds, the working world, and the non-working world. When all the working people are driving to work, everybody has somewhere to go. Sure there can be traffic, but everybody is trying to move as quickly as possible. Week days during the day in particular, are filled with people that have nowhere to go. And it totally shows in the way the flow of traffic occurs. It's like a mass of people on auto-pilot la-dee-da mode. Drive 10 under? Why not. O...M...G....
2) Losing stuff.
To be honest, I'm really good at this one, so I get annoyed at myself a lot. Especially when it's something you need in a rush, it's so stressful.
3) Clients who insist on making things look awful.
And why do they do this you ask? Oh, because they just love the colour fusia and other lame reasons like that. I don't tell them how to do their job, they really shouldn't tell me how to do mine.
4) Overplayed, overly festive or schmaltzy music.
This includes the following: Just Like a Waving Flag, I Believe, My Heart Will Go On, anything by Aqua (other than Barbie Girl which has some cool subversive lyrical content),
5) Canceling plans at the last minute.
I don't know, this didn't bother me so much when I was younger. But now I find I have so much stuff to do (not that I'm popular, more that I have more things to take care of), that I'm usually trying to move stuff around to get things done. So when my schedule gets out of sorts all of a sudden, I'm kinda like "I could've been doing...", drives me nuts.
6) Slow computers.
That spinning rainbow wheel of death (or the hour glass for you PC people out there), can be really annoying. Granted a few seconds is okay, but when it ends up with hearing the hard drive churning all of a sudden, and the computer lockdown to the point where you're afraid of the wind blowing the wrong way will cause your program to completely crap out, just to open a simple file, it's bad stuff. Better than the old blue screen of death I suppose...
7) Illustrator crashing when you haven't saved a file in a long time.
Save your files. But that leads me to wonder why Adobe hasn't developed some sort of auto-recovery back up. Microsoft Office has it.
8) That unhealthy food tastes soooooooo good.
If only french fries, potato chips, chocolate, butter, etc... were filled with vitamins and nutrients.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Living Life to the Fullest?
I've recently rediscovered this notion of "living life to the fullest". I'm not saying that I do that, if anything far from it, but I find it interesting that it is something that a lot of people strive for. I think it's a great goal to have and is meant to push people to their limits. I am just wondering lately, how plausible is that goal? Is it even remotely attainable?
I just filled out my time sheet at work, it's the 85th time sheet since starting my current job. That means I've been here a total of 43 months. It's not easy to live life to the fullest, when most of your life is spent attached to a desk. When I think of what it would take to make my life the "fullest", it would take a combination of things.
1) I'd have to be enjoying what I am doing, all the time.
2) I'd have to feel as if I am contributing to the betterment of society somehow.
3) I'd have to be able to live comfortably.
4) I'd be constantly growing and learning.
5) I'd be experiencing new things, places and challenges.
That's a very tall order.
That being said, is this possible?
1) I'd have to be enjoying what I am doing, all the time.
2) I'd have to feel as if I am contributing to the betterment of society somehow.
3) I'd have to be able to live comfortably.
4) I'd be constantly growing and learning.
5) I'd be experiencing new things, places and challenges.
That's a very tall order.
That being said, is this possible?
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