Timelines

I recently got the question "What age would you want to get married?". Before in my younger years, I'd say when I'm 30. Being very close to that now, I'm pretty sure that's impossible. But I'm not really sweating it, in fact, I'm perfectly okay with the fact that I'm not close.

I feel like I'm at this weird crossing point in my life, between youth and adulthood. While my current answer to the above question is "It'll happen whenever I meet the right person and it happens". I guess I figure things happen if and when they're suppose to happen. Benchmarks in life come in forms of events, not in terms of numbers. By trying to conform one's events to a schedule (married, kids, etc... by a certain age), puts undue pressure on people, and really end up making choices for the wrong reasons.

But I can't help but wonder how long can I go on saying that? I understand the whole, it's better to be alone than with the wrong person idea, but at some point, that probably changes in some people's minds. You see it all the time, couples who marry late in life, and you can't help but wonder whether it's out of desperation or resignation.

Now I've made a deal with myself before mentally, and now it's in writing, so hold me to it! I will by no means ever marry somebody if it comes down to that age and for those reasons. But then I have to wonder, if it did get to that point, am I meant to be single forever? I suppose it happens to people, though rarely, but one could make the argument that it should happen more often than it does.

Really this just doesn't apply to marriage alone, but everything, owning a house, having a particular lifestyle and so on. I find as the optimism of youth running thin, life has clearly become a game of balancing expectation (by one's self) and reality.