Growing up, adults will usually tell kids something along the lines that you can be anything you want. But as I'm getting older, I'm finding that while that may be true, it seems that odds do tilt a particular way. I've come across two particular cases lately.
First one is this guy from volleyball a couple months ago. I've only met him a couple of times, but have become relatively good friends with a friend of his. He grew up in a fairly ghetto area of the city. From what I've heard, he's had a tough upbringing. So what's happened to him? He got his girlfriend knocked up, who happens to be crazy emotional. He works at a call centre in technical customer service, the girlfriend is a stay at home mom. From the sounds of it, she's not particularly qualified to do anything anyway. The couple had their daughter, who is now about two years old and they're barely scraping by.
Case two is of this girl I went to university with. You could say she came from and upper class upbringing, growing up in a richer area of the city, going to one of the, if not most highly touted public school in the GTA. She just got married, saw the photos on facebook. Had quite the glamourous wedding, I think she married a lawyer or a business person of some sort.
Now I have not mentioned anything about either person's personality above, as to keep this as unbiased as possible, and only measurable facts.
Sure you can beat the statistics, but I can't somehow shake the feeling that most of the time, people are put on a particular path pretty early that is really tough to shake.
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Update to Things That Bother Me #4
In reference to my last post, #4 was about jaywalking.
Just yesterday I was meeting a friend who arrived over an hour late. He takes the TTC everywhere, so I grant him some leeway, but an hour is obscene. So I asked what happened, he said there was a delay. Apparently a jaywalker got hit on Eglinton. He said they must've flown 10 feet after impact. The driver had said the person came out of nowhere, the jaywalker crossed in front of a stopped bus to cross traffic, therefore the cars coming from behind the bus could not see the person.
As bad as I feel for the lady who got hit, you can't honestly blame the driver in that situation. Jaywalkers, you are forewarned...
Just yesterday I was meeting a friend who arrived over an hour late. He takes the TTC everywhere, so I grant him some leeway, but an hour is obscene. So I asked what happened, he said there was a delay. Apparently a jaywalker got hit on Eglinton. He said they must've flown 10 feet after impact. The driver had said the person came out of nowhere, the jaywalker crossed in front of a stopped bus to cross traffic, therefore the cars coming from behind the bus could not see the person.
As bad as I feel for the lady who got hit, you can't honestly blame the driver in that situation. Jaywalkers, you are forewarned...
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Things That Are Bothering Me Lately...
1) Dating Profiles with Nothing on Them
So after a 6 month hiatus from the whole internet dating scene, after a couple of drinks and very little for dinner, I figured why not. One of the things I completely forgot about it was there are quite a number of profiles out there that have little to no interesting information. I mean isn't the whole point of it to put yourself out there?
2) British People and Their Dogs
From my rather extensive exposure to the British, what I don't understand is their rather icy relationship with their family and at times friends, yet they are completely infatuated with their dogs. What is up with that? Just a hypothesis, but culturally, are they as a people so difficult to get along with, being both emotionally cold and hot tempered at the same time, that the only their dogs will put up with them unconditionally? Yes this is racist to an extent, but I've just noticed it as a trend over the many British people that have been extensively involved in my life and cannot help but notice.
3) "Canadian" Accent
So I've deduced that there is indeed a "Toronto/GTA" accent and a "Canadian" Accent. From this observation, I can only say that any sort of derogatory hoser reference that Canadian's get labelled with, is justified. Words such as "toyght" instead of "tight" and "narsty" instead of "nasty", I'm sorry rural Canadians, you sound folksy. Almost Sarah Palin-ish.
4) Pedestrians Who Can't Jaywalk, but Still Do
Okay, if you're going to jaywalk, you are breaking your right of way. So if you get hit, it's really your fault. If you are going to jaywalk across 6 lanes of traffic, you better know what you're doing. Be considerate of drivers, because yeah human nature will not let us run you over knowingly, but that doesn't mean at the moment we won't want to. Not to say that it will be me, but one day you could get hit by somebody.
5) Sensitive Trash Talkers
If you're going to dish it out, you should be able to take it. Don't sulk, suck it up princess!
So after a 6 month hiatus from the whole internet dating scene, after a couple of drinks and very little for dinner, I figured why not. One of the things I completely forgot about it was there are quite a number of profiles out there that have little to no interesting information. I mean isn't the whole point of it to put yourself out there?
2) British People and Their Dogs
From my rather extensive exposure to the British, what I don't understand is their rather icy relationship with their family and at times friends, yet they are completely infatuated with their dogs. What is up with that? Just a hypothesis, but culturally, are they as a people so difficult to get along with, being both emotionally cold and hot tempered at the same time, that the only their dogs will put up with them unconditionally? Yes this is racist to an extent, but I've just noticed it as a trend over the many British people that have been extensively involved in my life and cannot help but notice.
3) "Canadian" Accent
So I've deduced that there is indeed a "Toronto/GTA" accent and a "Canadian" Accent. From this observation, I can only say that any sort of derogatory hoser reference that Canadian's get labelled with, is justified. Words such as "toyght" instead of "tight" and "narsty" instead of "nasty", I'm sorry rural Canadians, you sound folksy. Almost Sarah Palin-ish.
4) Pedestrians Who Can't Jaywalk, but Still Do
Okay, if you're going to jaywalk, you are breaking your right of way. So if you get hit, it's really your fault. If you are going to jaywalk across 6 lanes of traffic, you better know what you're doing. Be considerate of drivers, because yeah human nature will not let us run you over knowingly, but that doesn't mean at the moment we won't want to. Not to say that it will be me, but one day you could get hit by somebody.
5) Sensitive Trash Talkers
If you're going to dish it out, you should be able to take it. Don't sulk, suck it up princess!
Thursday, November 10, 2011
30+1
So it's my birthday (hooray?).What better time to get nostalgic, other than Christmas I suppose. I've been having the strangest dreams the last few days in a row (nothing kinky for those whose minds have wandered into the gutter), mainly involving one ex-girlfriend or another. I'm beginning to wonder if it means anything. I have to admit, I do think about my ex-girlfriend a fair amount. It's been over 2 years now, and she still comes to mind on a semi-regular basis. I have to admit, this can be extremely annoying.
Last night I had a twilight zone moment, I woke up around 2am from a dream I was having about my ex. Not able to fall asleep right away I went on the computer, and what awaits me on facebook? A bday msg from her. The writing style of it would suggest that she's treating it as a mere formality now. I hadn't heard from her since January, but this msg wasn't entirely unexpected. But the timing of it was weird, but I was way too tired to think about it too deeply.
Don't get me wrong, I still think we're better off apart, but part of me wonders if she thinks about me too. She's been with somebody else for well over a year now, so I imagine not. I know when I was dating, who I will just call "the crazy bitch", I very rarely if ever thought about my ex. Is there just a void that's there that my mind has to fill?
Last night I had a twilight zone moment, I woke up around 2am from a dream I was having about my ex. Not able to fall asleep right away I went on the computer, and what awaits me on facebook? A bday msg from her. The writing style of it would suggest that she's treating it as a mere formality now. I hadn't heard from her since January, but this msg wasn't entirely unexpected. But the timing of it was weird, but I was way too tired to think about it too deeply.
Don't get me wrong, I still think we're better off apart, but part of me wonders if she thinks about me too. She's been with somebody else for well over a year now, so I imagine not. I know when I was dating, who I will just call "the crazy bitch", I very rarely if ever thought about my ex. Is there just a void that's there that my mind has to fill?
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