Separating the Women from the Girls

This past week, I've had varying experiences with girls, but I'd like to talk about one experience in particular.

I have to say us guys can get a bum rap when it comes to the whole maturity issue. I think it's a very individualistic quality. From the past few posts, there's this girl from volleyball that I've been interested in awhile. We've spent a few times together outside of volleyball. It's interesting to see a person in one venue and then another. All sorts of things come out. For starters her immaturity. In hindsight, I suppose I could've expected as much, there's an age difference. At volleyball, everything is fun and games, but as soon as you start talking about 'real' stuff, it's a whole other ball game.

Okay, this is what's honestly bugging me. Girls say they want relationships, but are they ready with all the stuff that comes with it? So this girl is talking about her boyfriend wants kids in 3-4 years. That's not really a long time away, but her auto-response was "no way". Then starts going on about how he's so old (granted he's 10 years older than her). I'm thinking, he's in a different stage in his life, he wants a relationship that has long term future written all over it. He's not messing around, just to have a good time. By her reaction to his declaration about having kids, you can tell two things. First, is that she's pretty self centred, only looking at it from her point of view. Without giving away numbers, a lot of people his age has at least one kid by then. Second, is that she still wants her freedom. That her life should go on unimpeded by anything or anybody.

After finding all of this out, I've lost interest in her. She might want a relationship, but she isn't really ready for one. It's not all rainbows, fairy tales and ponies and shit, it's a lot of work. And frankly it's a lot of compromise and sacrifice. Not to make it sound terrible, but relationships and freedom do not go hand in hand. You're bound to somebody, at that point, it's not your story alone.

If you don't want that, then don't say you want a relationship. Girls, you might be fun, but at this point in my life, I need a woman.